5 Differences Between Raising Children In Estonia & GermanySunday, January 24, 2016
Ever since I was pregnant with Thor I've found it interesting to see how people from different countries raise their children. It is so fascinating to read articles about cultural differences in parenting strategies and to take notes from what works and what may not. For example, did you know that in Japan children NEVER cry or that 4-year-olds travel on subway on their own? Or that in Jewish tradition it is parents oblication to teach their children how to swim? Or that in the Netherlands parents almost never tell their kids that they're smart? Or that in Spain children don't go to bed before 10 pm?
This is so interesting to see and read why these types of strategies are used and how they explain it to be an advantage. Which is why today I wanted to talk about the 5 main differences I've noticed in raising children in Germany vs in Estonia. All in all Estonian parenting strategies are quite similar to Germany and also to Norway and Sweden, but here are some aspects that are done differently:
1. 1 year parental leave
Here in Germany parents get 1 year paid parental leave after what children go to the Kinderkrippe, whereas in Estonia the paid parental leave is for 1,5 years and you can put your child to the kindergarten.
2. No sleep in kindergartenIn Germany children aged 3 and older don't sleep during the day nor in the kindergarten, when in Estonia kids have to sleep in the kindergarten until they go to school at the age of 7.
3. Dress very lightlyThor is always the one wearing the warmest clothes here, since we're used to pack our kids in as we do in Estonia, so they won't catch a cold. But in Germany kids wear very light jackets and don't wear hats or gloves even when it's below zero outside.
4. Eat various foodsI'm used to that children get to eat foods that are most likely loved by kids such as porridge, different soups, mached potatoes etc, especially in the kindergarten. But here they don't eat porridge in the morning or mached potatoes during the day, instead Thor's kindergarten serves prosciutto and mozzarella cheese with bruscettas for breakfast, falafel or couscous for lunch etc. You can see all sorts of different cuisines on kids table from an early age.
5. Bedtime at 7 pmSince kids don't sleep during the day, they go to bed early in the evening. Being used to put children to bed at 8-9 pm, 7 is really early for us, cause it doesn't give us much time to spend with our kid in the evening, not to mention making it imposible to go anywhere. So we're sticking to putting Thor to sleep at 8 pm :)
Sellest ajast saati, kui ma jäin Thori ootama, on mind huvitanud jälgida, kuidas erinevates riikides lapsi kasvatatakse. Nii põnev on lugeda artikleid kultuurilistest erinevustest kasvatusmeetodites ning panna kõrva taha erinevaid lähenemise, leides sealt endale parima, mis võiks toimida ja samas mis mitte. Näiteks, kas te teadsite, et Jaapanis ei kuule te MITTE KUNAGI lapsi nutmas või et 4-aastased reisivad seal üksinda metrooga? Või seda, et juuditraditsioonis on vanematel kohustus õpetada oma lapsi ujuma? Või et Hollandlased ei ütle peaaegu kunagi oma lastele, et nad on targad? Või et Hispaanias ei lähe lapsed enne kella 10 õhtul magama?
Minu jaoks on see kõik nii huvitav ja mulle meeldib uurida põhjusi, miks ühtesid või teisi strateegiaid kasutatakse ning kuidas see lapse arengule kaasa aitab. Sel põhjusel mõtlesin teile täna rääkida viiest peamisest erinevusest Eestiga, mida ma olen lastekasvatuses märganud siin Saksamaal. Üldiselt võib öelda, et meetodid on väga sarnased ja suuri erinevusi pole ei Saksaga ega ka näiteks Norra ja Rootsiga, kuid mõned vahed siiski on ja need on järgmised: